When we make the decision to change, we can experience a whole range of emotions. The process of change can be difficult for some, as we develop new behaviours and new attitudes. Whether your aim is to lose weight or to stop smoking, there are ways to ease your way through to that bright new future that you are dreaming of.
It has been suggested that we all have an innate drive to progress. One of the names that psychologists call this is ‘self-actualisation’, and given the right conditions, this can go into overdrive!
Here are some ways of providing optimum conditions for long-term change;
One highly effective method is by using self-hypnosis. Whilst your mind is in the trance state of hypnosis, it is free from critical thinking and self doubts. In this state, you can recondition yourself to behave in more positive ways and really develop new ways of
Affirmations are another tool that can be used to help you make long-term behavioural and attitudinal changes. Put together a sentence that relates to your goal, perhaps something like “I am slim and healthy” or “I am a healthy non-smoker” or simply “I believe in myself”. Repeating this sentence to yourself a few times daily can help you to let your unconscious mind absorb the statement and all of the positive connotations that go with it, helping you to reach your goal.
Simply imagining the achievement of your goal on a regular basis can aid your success. Thinking about how great you will feel when you’ve reached your ideal weight. How much healthier will you feel? How much more energised will you feel? Visualise these feelings of success and (perhaps most importantly) allow yourself to feel proud of your efforts so far.
It can also be very useful to reflect on previous successes. Whether it’s directly related to your current goal or not, have a think about what goals you have set yourself before. It may be studying for a qualification, or perhaps raising your child. Think about all of these goals, and how great you felt when you’d reached them. How did you do it? What obstacles did you have to overcome in the process?
Occasionally I encounter a client who will have difficulty in thinking about something that they feel proud about. They say that they haven’t done anything that significant. Whenever this happens, all it takes is a little prodding to find something that actually is quite remarkable that they had perhaps taken for granted or overlooked. For example, I remember one such client who didn’t believe that they had done anything of worth in their life. Upon further discussion, it turned out that they were a keen writer and had been published several times. If that is not something to be proud of, I don’t know what is!
So if you do have difficulty in remembering a proud moment, think again. And maybe ask yourself the question ‘If I were looking at my life as an outsider, what would I think was a proud achievement?’
If you’ve managed to do something this remarkable before, then why can’t you do something remarkable again?